It takes courage to break free from those outdated beliefs and declare to the world who we are, what we stand for, and what we believe in. Some people will not agree with us and it can be painful if the people that are close to us, our family members, don’t “get us.” We have a choice to make. Do we want to live an authentic life in spite of people close to us not agreeing with us, or even worse, getting angry at us, and causing a break in communication, or even separation? Or do we “keep the peace” and suffer in silence and not say anything. Unfortunately the price can be illness, anxiety, depression, and deep seated resentments and the feeling of emptiness.
I believe that we all come to this world to fulfill a specific purpose. My purpose was revealed to me relatively early in life. My mom was a teacher and she was my role model. Later on I became a teacher myself. However, my teaching career lasted only for a short time as I just could not deal with classroom discipline. I have always been very sensitive and emotional, almost like a “sponge” and I could easily tell people’s feelings.
Unfortunately my childhood and adolescence was traumatic and painful. On my mother’s side of the family there was alcoholism and violence and my mom never healed from it or sought help and as a result, she was abusive to me until I was almost 20. I had to break-free to preserve my soul and my well-being. I moved out of my parent’s house at the age of 25 and that’s when my journey to self-love and finding myself began.
I knew I needed to change my environment drastically and since Slovenia was so small, I had to move far and that’s how I ended up in Miami, FL, ironically I was married to an alcoholic. I had to go through many more lessons and have been in therapy and worked with healers and coaches. I have been also doing my healing work over the last 15 years. Many of the experiences that were challenging and painful turned out to be a blessing in disguise because it made me a much more compassionate person and psychotherapist. In 2003 I obtained my master’s degree in Marriage and Family Therapy and I found the meaning of my life in helping others and sharing what I have learned.
You can overcome challenges, but you need to ask for help. Many of my clients admitted how difficult it was for them to seek help, however once they did, they changed their lives around. And so can you.
To read more, purchase my book “My Journey to Self-Discovery” (now available on www.lulu.com) or my recently published book “Dare to be Authentic” which is a compilation of 26 authors sharing their inspirational stories on the way to be authentic. For more information email: Mateja@HolisticCoachingInternational.com or 561-299-1028 or www.HolisticCoachingInternational.com