Later on, I was glad in some ways that I did not belong to Christian church. While I respect all religions, I do not agree that there is one path. I have not been “indoctrinated” by many Christian beliefs about sin and going to Hell if you did not behave. I have seen how many of my clients suffered from shame, guilt, and beliefs that they need to suffer and that they cannot have the life of their dreams out of fear for being selfish.
Easter, Pascha in Latin, Paskha in Greek, is a Christian festival and holiday celebrating the resurrection of Jesus Christ on the third day after his crucifixion as described in the New Testament. The name Easter is derived from the Hebrew word pesach for 'he passed over (Read more at: http://www.standardmedia.co.ke/?articleID=2000109686&story_title=do-you-know-the-true-meaning-of-easter) The feast day of Easter was originally a pagan celebration of renewal and rebirth. Celebrated in the early spring, it honored the pagan Saxon goddess Easter.
Instead of focusing on the religious symbolism, I would like to address the issue of tolerance and respect for all religions. When I moved to the US, and after my failed marriage, I found solace in studying Eastern practices such as Buddhism and Hinduism. I especially resonated with Zen and teachings by Thich Nhat Hanh and Dalai Lama. I also took a 6 months ministry class in 2012 to learn more about different religions and I was fascinated by all of them. I wanted to better understand my clients who come from all walks of life and different religious and spiritual backgrounds.
I consider myself Universalist and I integrate teachings from different spiritual practices. I have experienced the dark side of religion during Milosevic regime when thousands of people died because of religious differences. It is really sad that differences keep us apart and that many times we are scared of people who are different from us instead of looking for a common ground.
What can we do? Everything starts with your own self and your own family. I teach my clients to question their beliefs. Many times we don’t even question the beliefs even though they do not fit anymore.
Let me explain. Recently I worked with a client who was raised in a catholic church and who got married to a Catholic woman to do what is “right” in the face of society and to please his parents, even though he was advised by his pastor in a pre-marital course that this was not a good idea as he and his future wife had very little in common besides the fact that they were both Catholic. There was no passion and no physical attraction between them. Client had been living a lie for over 20 years and they had 3 children (they only had sex in order to procreate) and he did not even know he was miserable until he fell in love. Sadly, he did not want to disappoint anybody and instead engaged in a pre-marital affair. His deep seated religious beliefs and guilt prevented him from being truthful and honest and instead of dealing with the consequences he dropped out of therapy.
I believe that if religions were more tolerant of human weaknesses, many more people would live happier and more vibrant lives and we would not have such a high rate of depression, suicidal rates, violence and hatred in the world. Love and fear cannot co-exist. Teaching children compassion and tolerance early in life can make a big difference. As you celebrate Easter, think about what you can do today to be more compassionate, grateful, and loving towards others.
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