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Stop and think about what do unhealthy relationships mean for many of us as women and our Relationship associations? This is what Unhealthy Relationships Blogdiscusses in detail as well as Imago Approach and how I utilize that in therapy with clients. Ailing relationships, a dysfunctional partner, or for example even worse a destructive relationship means we may have picked the wrong partner or mate.  What could be more important than our personal relationships with people and our connection? Now let’s talk in terms specifically here just in regards to women. Women that grow up in traditional Western cultures do so with a particular belief system. Most women, right from early on, have been taught certain things.


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They were taught for example to believe that one day they will meet Prince Charming. We know the role he plays in relationship behavior. He will ride in on a white horse and save us. He will swoop down and take us away from all our suffering and make us happy and whole again. This Relationship behavior theme is very pervasive in Western culture. This appears in our books and movies, permeating everything. But the reality is oftentimes something else. Many people have to deal with the poor behavior of their spouse or significant other the simple version is because they are in a toxic relationship with a toxic partner. For some of you, this concept of a toxic relationship, a destructive relationship with a Toxic partner is all too familiar. Going through life attached to a Dysfunctional partner is a difficult undertaking! Is this what you want?



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Think about movies such as Jerry McGuire’s “You complete me or another great example is the movie “Pretty Woman“. In the past women didn’t have as many career choices that we have today, so often times they just had to be “happy” and put up with whatever life brought them. Do you personally think this is the way it should be in relationship behavior?


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That meant women would suffer emotional, mental, financial, and even physical abuse. Luckily, with women’s rights and move up the career ladder, things have changed for women. Yet on an emotional level, we still expect a man to “make us happy”. This I believe is the core of our misconception.

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You might be a stay-at-home mom or dad or a professional or business owner, the issue remains the same. We all want love, understanding, and a shoulder to cry on because many of us are dealing with a Toxic Relationship with a Toxic partner. We have all read enough self-help books, or even spent years in therapy, yet we are not getting the results.  And this goes for both men and women alike. Nowadays it’s not uncommon anymore for a woman to have a demanding career, while her husband stays home or works in a less demanding job. What I’m saying here is true for both genders.


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Men usually just don’t share their suffering or even abuse from a spouse due to the stigma attached to it. This is a very difficult situation in terms of healing and moving forward. The fact that men are usually very closed off generally speaking works against the situation many times.


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I have had my own share of failed relationships that stemmed from my own traumatic and dysfunctional childhood. I started dating when I was 15 because I thought this was the only way for me to feel loved and understood. Yet, because I never healed sufficiently, I kept attracting abusive, angry, and narcissistic men. I wonder if this rings a bell for you too. Have you met the man or woman you stat dating and soon after realize you’re navigating the turbulent waters in a toxic relationship with a toxic partner? Now you have a completely different set of problems to deal with.


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Many of the clients I’ve worked with in my clinical practice have had similar struggles in relationships that have also led to clinical depression, anxiety, and lack of self-worth. The outcome oftentimes of being in a toxic relationship with a toxic partner is usually poor. However, there is pressure within our society to find that one special man or woman who is your soulmate, otherwise you might be perceived that there is something wrong with you.


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Probably like most of you, I’ve read a ton of self-help books, including Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus, and saw healers, coaches, and therapists. I’ve learned a lot about myself and relationships which also led me to become a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist


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In my professional practice, I utilize something called the Imago Approach, a concept founded by Harville and Helen Hendrix. The Imago approach and utilizing the technique of Imago Dialogue has been invaluable.


According to Utilizing Imago Approach theory, we attract partners in our life that remind us about our primary caregivers, who are generally our parents, and that includes both their positive and negative traits. Imago Approach theory is a fascinating facet of relationship behavior. To give you an example, a woman who grew up in a home where her mother was very submissive, might find herself attracting domineering and controlling men like her father. So as you might imagine, utilizing the Imago Approach theory in therapy sessions has been truly helpful to my clients. I have various imago approach exercises I use during therapy sessions with clients.


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In addition to our discussion here about the Imago Approach, you can find several book titles listed in my Blogs and on my website. You might find them helpful. Here is a link to that area of my website. Contact me if you would like to learn more about the Imago Intentional Dialogue. As well as how that plays out in our lives and how that intersects with the Imago Relationship Therapy which is a type of couples therapy.


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However, don’t despair because with some professional help this CAN be overcome. The best approach that worked for me and my clients is to understand how your subconscious and unconscious mind works. Many times, when we grew up in a dysfunctional home, we made certain beliefs about love, relationships, feelings, money, and so on. We might not even remember these beliefs yet we keep living our lives based on those beliefs. 


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If we want a different life, the key is to understand our mindset and our beliefs. Many times you’ll find you’re still living your life based on your parent’s or other authority figures’ beliefs. As children, we depended on others for our survival and our well-being so we were not able to question those beliefs, consequently, as ADULTS we can, and we MUST in order to change our lives for the better.


Over time I’ve found the techniques that work best in uncovering hidden beliefs include NLP, hypnosis, and EMDR.


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Now, let’s talk some more about “How do you know if you are in an unhealthy relationship or even a toxic relationship.” further. I want you to ask yourself if any of these statements apply to you. By the way, an excellent book I often refer to is by Doreen Virtue. First, it is unsafe and unhealthy to be in a toxic relationship with a toxic partner so you have to do some critical thinking here. Some of these behaviors are more call for an improvement, while others could be too toxic and you might need to leave the relationship. It’s time to make some important life decisions.


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Relationship Deal Breakers- Ten Toxic Partner Signs


It’s important to know what your “Deal Breakers” are in relationship behavior and what you can tolerate. However, there are some toxic partner signs that deserve our attention. In this list, I’m just mentioning a few of the more common ones. These “Deal Breakers” can destroy even a happy relationship. This is once again a toxic relationship with a toxic partner and you need change! But also you need to be able to recognize the Ten Toxic Partner Signs to find that successful relationship you need and want. This is not easy!


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    • 1. Interrupting – the person who continuously interrupts you is not interested in what you have to say. Very often, the person who constantly interrupts is frequently anxious or hyperactive (and that might be due to the use of stimulants, such as coffee). You need to tell them something like: “Excuse me, I am not done talking yet” and be assertive. This seems like a very disrespectful quality in a relationship.


    • 2. Constant correcting – this is even worse than interrupting. You constantly walk on eggshells. You need to be assertive and tell them that it feels more like he or she is acting as your teacher and not your partner.


    • 3. Clingy/needy behavior. Again you need to tell them you are busy with projects and set proper boundaries.


    • 4. Stalking is even worse and in some cases, you might need to get a restraining order if the situation doesn’t improve. This is an extremely poor situation where you are experiencing life in a toxic relationship with a toxic partner. We know it could all be one-sided or some sort of mental issue that needs to be addressed. But, in any case, this is a bad situation that can easily go on to be a much worse one. In the list of Ten Toxic Partner Signs, this is one to pay careful attention to.


    • 5. Guilt-tripping or manipulating people. You feel resentful and angry. It’s important to say NO and stick to it.


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    • 6. Angerholics are addicted to being angry. This anger might be a result of upbringing, or also deep feelings of inferiority, disguised as anger. It’s important to get professional help especially if the angry person continues to be in denial and doesn’t respond to common sense. When someone doesn’t respond to common sense it is definitely one of the alarming top Ten Toxic Partner Signs.


    • 7. Controlling behavior where typically controlling people act out immaturely in relationship behavior or with anger when they feel that they are not in control.


  • 8. Addictions, including substance abuse, reminds us it’s important to understand that any addiction needs to be treated by a professional. If you find yourself always pleading with the person suffering from addiction, most of the time it will not help as you continue enabling their behavior. It takes a lot of strength and courage to stay in a relationship with an addict. Until they get professional help, you are really in a relationship with a man or a woman who is hidden behind this cycle of addiction.


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    • 9. Name-calling is behavior that is verbally abusive. When it occurs you need to speak up because it’s not acceptable. Name-calling can hurt even more sometimes than physical abuse can especially for someone who has a trusting, sensitive heart. For example, a Highly Sensitive Person in a toxic relationship where a toxic partner engages in daily hurtful behavior such as gaslighting or name-calling. Sooner or later this behavior will take its toll.


    • 10. Betrayal A betrayer breaks your heart and your trust by engaging in hurtful behaviors such as infidelity, flirting with others, lying to you, or exercising extremely poor judgment. In my professional practice, I worked with many couples who had suffered infidelity and in some cases, if the relationship had a solid basis, they overcame infidelity issues. However, it can take years. It is always important to love yourself enough and be honest with yourself and not trying to forgive people at every cost. 


Did you have a different item on the list of the Ten Toxic Partner Signs? Did you read and say to yourself my ailing Relationship is ailing! Remember you can find more about these techniques and others by visiting my website and contacting me. Tell us about it in the comments section.

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I also wanted to share with you what Dr. John Gottman calls “The 4 Horsemen of the Apocalypse”. These are 4 main Relationship behavior patterns that can destroy a relationship or a marriage (see Dr. John Gottman “The 4 Horsemen of the Apocalypse” Blog)


Criticism: A complaint focuses on a specific behavior, while criticism attacks the character of the person.


Defensiveness: Defensiveness is defined as self-protection in the form of righteous indignation or innocent victimhood in an attempt to ward off a perceived attack. Many people become defensive when they are being criticized, but the problem is that being defensive never helps to solve the problem at hand. Defensiveness is really a way of blaming your partner.


Contempt: statements that come from a relative position of superiority. Some examples of displays of contempt include when a person uses sarcasm, cynicism, name-calling, eye-rolling, sneering, mockery, and hostile humor. Contempt is the greatest predictor of divorce and must be eliminated.


Stonewalling: Stonewalling occurs when the listener withdraws from the interaction. The antidote is to practice physiological self-soothing. The first step of physiological self-soothing is to stop the conflict discussion. If you keep going, you’ll find yourself exploding at your partner or imploding (stonewalling), neither of which will get you anywhere.


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Now that we have talked about dysfunctional and unhealthy relationship patterns, let’s talk for a minute about the key characteristics of a HEALTHY relationship. I like to say, that in a healthy relationship, there is INTER-DEPENDENCE as opposed to co-dependence. Both partners are equal in every aspect and focus on their strengths and work together as a team.



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1. Emotionally intelligent couples know each other’s world. They know each other’s goals, worries, and hopes.


2. Fondness and admiration are two of the most crucial elements in a long-lasting romance. I suggest to my couples to keep a jar filled with positive statements of each other and remember positive things when things get tough.


3. Seeking partner’s affection and support and give it freely. It doesn’t always have to be great sex. Affection is even more important.


4. Treating each other with respect even when you disagree.


5. Solve your solvable problems and let go of things you cannot solve at the moment or learn to compromise.


6. Overcome gridlock and “honor” your partner’s dreams.


7. Create shared meaning so Marriage can have an intentional sense of shared purpose



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Highly Sensitive People! They’re everywhere! Have you been told you’re a “Highly Sensitive Person” and that you’re “too emotional” or “too needy?” Do you think more deeply about things and worry more than the average person? Do you prefer quiet environments? You’re not alone! You’re a delicate, tenderhearted human being?


I think it’s also very important to note something here. If you’ve never heard the term “Highly Sensitive People” but you recognize the symptoms, you should make adjustments. These new adjustments would give you a better quality of life among other things. I’m also a “Highly Sensitive Person” as well. One of the reasons I write so many Blogs is to share my journey with the public. It is possible if you knew more about my background it might help you potentially.


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According to Elaine N. Aron, a psychologist, and author, in her 1996 book, “The Highly Sensitive Person” Dr. Aron discusses individuals with high measures of sensory processing sensitivity. Elaine N. Aron first developed and researched this term in the early 1990s. The results from her work were Highly Sensitive People were found to be quite common. With as many as one in five people found to possess traits consistent with those of Highly Sensitive People. Are you a “Highly Sensitive Person”?


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Many times Highly Sensitive People suffer from Anxiety and Depression which can turn into Severe Clinical Depression if they don’t get professional help. They often try to please others and feel guilty when they are not able to meet their needs. Research also indicates that Highly Sensitive People account for 15% to 20% of the population, which makes it quite a large percentage of humanity. Yet we’ve often been led to believe that sensitivity is a weakness. Home



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Highly Sensitive People also often choose careers that are definitely NOT typical. They are very sensitive to the environment and they prefer to work alone to avoid harsh criticism. That would include having to answer to a demanding boss! These careers might include musicians, interpreters (I was an interpreter), as well as people being “on-call”, such as medical professionals. They all have one thing in common, they often feel misunderstood, alone, underappreciated, and overworked. 



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1. Easily overwhelmed


Highly Sensitive People get easily overwhelmed by their environment. Now, this represents other people or loved ones, as well as bright lights, noise, strong smells, loud music, or sirens. Often they are light sleepers. Typically, they have struggled with insomnia due to worrying about what had happened during the day for example. They also tend to be analyzing everything.


2. Feel guilty all the time


Also, Highly Sensitive People who work in non-traditional jobs many times cannot see family or friends often and they feel guilty about it. They feel more than most people and therefore it’s not easy for them just to let it go. They feel bad when they miss a family dinner, birthday party, or social event. 


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Many times a Highly Sensitive Person is not able to make plans more than a week in advance and many even work on weekends. Now consider people who work a graveyard shift or interpreters. They typically might say there is no such thing as a weekend for them. When everyone celebrates, they need to work. They are also very conscientious, hard-working, meticulous, and detail-oriented.  



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3. Need privacy


A Highly Sensitive Person is often introverted and needs time to think and reflect. Others may misunderstand their behavior as being “snooty” or “antisocial.” Many Highly Sensitive People have learned from a young age that they need to keep their feelings and thoughts to themselves as they have been told that they were “weird” or “cry, babies.” As children, they were often seen as shy. They also prefer to exercise solo. Highly Sensitive People tend to avoid team sports as they feel that everyone is watching their every move.


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Musicians are on the top of the list here of Highly Sensitive People. Music and art are generally considered an “extra curriculum.”  Many times they are not taken seriously as they don’t have a “real job.” Few people know how much work and dedication it takes to become a well-known musician. Not everyone can be the next member of The Beatles! Think about bass players. The average music lover pays very little attention to bass and what it does for the music that they are listening to. Mostly, the lead singer and the guitarist are given kudos. So they learn to stay in the background not getting the praise that they deserve.



5. Highly Sensitive People- More Emotional


Generally speaking, Highly Sensitive People have more empathy when their friends or even strangers are going through challenges. They feel everything on a deeper level and they are usually very intuitive. They make good social workers, teachers, and counselors. However, they need to learn how to take better care of themselves as they are prone to professional burnout. This was one of the first things that I had experienced as a new counselor trying to do more than I could handle. This led to frequent colds and illnesses because the immune system gets compromised.


6. Too sensitive or take things too personal


This is especially true of the Western culture that is focused on self-actualization and individualization (remember Maslow’s “Hierarchy of Needs). In the US we believe the pharmaceutical industry can solve everything even a person’s temperament. If you study Eastern cultures, for example in Thailand and India, highly sensitive men are never teased. Unlike in our North American culture, a Highly Sensitive Person can have a difficult time. However, in North American, culture boys are taught from a young age that to show emotions is not “manly.”


7. Anxiety and Depression Prone


Highly Sensitive People are more prone to anxiety and depression (if they’ve had a lot of negative past experiences). In my professional practice, I’ve worked with hundreds of Highly Sensitive People. Many of them suffered some kind of trauma or abuse that may have scarred them for life.


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According to Dr. Aron having a supportive environment can go a long way to protecting against this trauma & abuse. The other key is working with a compassionate and trained professional. Parents of highly sensitive children especially need to realize that they have special needs that need to be considered such as explaining things in a non-judgmental way as opposed to using punishment. Thus a Highly Sensitive Person has special needs that need to be addressed.


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8. Sensory processing sensitivity- Movies or TV shows


Watching violence on TV or in the news can really upset a Highly Sensitive Person. Many Highly Sensitive People choose not to watch the news or violent movies as they feel everything deeply. It may disrupt their sleep as it can lead to violent nightmares. For example, Sensory processing sensitivity is a personality trait that can be affected by Movies and TV and the violence that exists online.


9. Highly Sensitive People- Narcissists


Since Highly Sensitive People have high levels of empathy, they often find themselves in relationships with narcissists, who either take advantage of them or prey on what they perceive to be a weaker group.  Narcissists typically just care about themselves, their status, and their image and they lack empathy. Just think about The Picture of Dorian Gray. Remember he fell in love with his own reflection.


10. Highly Sensitive Person- Decision-making 


The Highly Sensitive Person is more aware of the details and nuances of a particular situation. They can weigh pros and cons endlessly and this is especially true if there is no right or wrong answer, such as in choosing a color to paint the room. This is because they are considering every possible outcome and they also don’t want to upset anybody. They tend to overanalyze everything. 


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Overall, Highly Sensitive People are still a minority even though with the influx of “new age” and renewed interest in spirituality,they are finding themselves in environments where they feel safe, such as in Reiki circles, meditation groups, or drumming circles where they feel that they can express themselves more freely.


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1. Be careful when consuming stimulants.

Consuming too much caffeine can affect your digestion and make you jittery. Instead, try a cup of green tea.

2. You are not alone.

Many famous artists, musicians, teachers, and philosophers were Highly Sensitive People. Use your intuition and ability to be creative to your advantage.

3. It’s okay to be an introvert.

In some cultures, like Asian cultures, being an introvert is an advantage. Being an introvert helps you to deeply understand not just yourself, but also others.

4. Empathy is an amazing quality

While having empathy can be painful at times, as you feel other people’s pain, it gives you insight and the ability to be close to people. Professions such as social work, art, or teaching would be a great fit for you and it would give you an advantage.

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Often times it’s due to intrusive and obsessive thoughts related to chronic anxiety and depression. Lack of sleep doesn’t only make us cranky, it also affects our productivity. It can lead to chronic illnesses due to a compromised immune system.


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In addition to guided meditation here are some supplements that you can take. I’ve been an advocate for a natural, non-medical and integrative medicine approach for years and wish I had this book before!


 James Greenblatt, MD, a pioneer in the field of integrative medicine, has been successfully treating patients with nutritional and metabolic therapies for more than twenty-five years. In this book, he provides a personalized model of integrative medicine for mental health that can result in relief from depression and a renewed sense of emotional health.


Dr. James Greenblatt recommends several different sleep remedies. 


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All dosages are estimates as everyone is different.


1. Magnesium (“anti-stress mineral”) 200-300 mg before bedtime.


2. Valerian (reduces anxiety while improving sleep) 300-500 mg before sleep. Possible side effects are headache, restlessness, sleeplessness, and irregular heartbeat.


3. Inositol & 5-HTP Inositol is naturally produced by intestinal bacteria and helps transmit nerve signals and prevents the buildup of fat in the liver. Research supports positive benefits for insomnia and OCD. Dosage 1 teaspoon at 8 pm (about 2.8 grams) and 1 teaspoon before bed.


5-HTP is an early form of the neurotransmitter serotonin that is changed to make melatonin. Dosage 50-200 mg 30-60 minutes before bed. DO NOT take if already taking anti-depressants such as Lexapro.


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4. Glycine Amino acid is produced in the body and is considered an inhibitory neurotransmitter. It calms neurotransmitters so that they don’t fire rapidly. Dosage 3 grams 1 hour before bedtime.


5. GABA is A neurotransmitter that helps brain cells calm down and become less excited.  Dosage 500-750 mg with a cup of water and drink half before bedtime. If you wake up during the night, drink the other half. Try 100-250 mg first and then increase the dosage.


6. Melatonin  A Hormone produced by the pineal gland that works with the body’s built-in clock to regulate sleep and wake cycles. Your body needs mineral zinc to manufacture melatonin, as well as Zinc, plays a role in preventing depression.


Dosage: 1-3 mg before sleep.


Possible side effects are drowsiness, upset stomach, and headaches.


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Recently I attended a lecture by Dr. Maya Sarkisyan who also happens to be my functional medicine doctor. Here are a few more great tips from her for better sleep too. It’s important to note that “one size does not fit all.” It’s key to find the root cause for insomnia or poor sleep. Most often it’s stress, anxiety, and obsessive thinking. However, it can also be hormonal changes during menopause (as in my case) or even mold & allergies.


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  • Move electronics out of your bedroom. Shut down all the screens. Blue light is very stressful for your nervous system. Make sure you have filters or software on your electronic devices to get rid of blue light. Put your phone on airplane mode, and turn it face down. 
  • Keep the temperature cooler during the night than through the day. The best sleep temperature is between 65 and 72 degrees.
  • At least two hours before bedtime stop eating anything and don’t drink alcohol. The best is to have your last bite before 7 pm, and have only water or herbal tea after. 

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  • Clean up your environment. It is much better to sleep in a clean room knowing that in the morning you will wake up to an organized space.
  • Relax with a book (instead of TV)  or journal about the day and write down tasks for tomorrow
  • Get blackout curtains and block all the light sources you can. Get your bedroom as dark as possible. 
  • If you cannot fall asleep for 30 min – get up, go into another room, have dim lighting only, and repeat some of your routines. After 15 minutes you can then go back to bed and try to fall asleep again. 
  • Take at least 10 minutes to practice mindful relaxation and/or spiritual practices. Usually, spiritual practices take longer. Examples – Prayer, Meditation, Breathing, Qigong. and practice gratitude. 

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Practicing some form of meditation, and spending time in nature, as well as daily exercise will make you feel better. It will also help you get more restful sleep. If you are unable to shake off intrusive thoughts, I also recommend journaling. If the problem persists, schedule time with a licensed clinician who will help you uncover other reasons for lack of sleep.


I recommend talking to a Naturopath or medical doctor especially if you are already taking medication as some of it may interfere. So, in the end, don’t forget natural remedies & sleep supplements. Wishing you a restful and peaceful night’s sleep!


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“My ideal clients are adults who had experienced childhood abuse, trauma, challenging relationships, PTSD, depression, and anxiety and it still affects their life. I also equip my clients with top behavioral techniques to manage stress and daily challenges.” Mateja Petje


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Welcome to Natural Stress Management


The “Go to” Therapy Resource


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Welcome to the Holistic Coaching International Website Launch! Welcome to Natural Stress Management. Specifically, welcome also to domain address! This is The “Go to” Holistic Therapy Resource and I’m a Holistic Coach. You might not even realize or begin to imagine the amount of work involved in the Holistic Coaching Website Launch. I want to first say to you it’s very exciting to welcome you Dear Reader to my new, very elaborate website! My name is Mateja Petje. I’m the CEO of Holistic Coaching International. When you think of Mateja Petje think of me as your Holistic Psychotherapist.


But, I’m so much more than that! For example, I’m a Stress Management Coach as well as a Certified NLP Practitioner. Additionally, I’m also a Mood Disorders Specialist and Trauma-Informed Therapist. Finally, I’m also a Published Author too. We haven’t even begun to talk about my great work in Energy Medicine too!


For more about my work with Energy Medicine, I want to provide a link directly to that area of my website


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As I write this we are currently undergoing a huge website facelift. So all of us at Holistic Coaching International want to welcome you to our beautiful and informative new website! We’re very excited to deliver all the great content we provide to you. We try to make it the best experience possible. The goal is to give you terrific resources, images, and helpful links you can use as tools.


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It seems like right now everyone is suffering in one way or another. In my own way, I like to do my part. I’m hoping this website may really help people. Fortunately, on this website, you can also get the very latest updates in the mental health field and stress management techniques. Plus you can even book a FREE 15-minute phone consultation with Mateja.


For more information about Mateja and Holistic Coaching Website Launch here is a link to the Contact Us page of my website.


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Here not only can you schedule a session, but there is a huge amount of very good information as well that will help you.


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In your life, if you’ve experienced any trauma, abuse, anxiety, depression, stress, anger, or PTSD in a word you NEED to visit this website! If you’re interested in Energy Medicine techniques for example modalities such as Reiki, Tapping, EFT is also known as Emotional Freedom Techniques and more you can find that too on our website.


Holistic Coaching Website Launch- Has it all!


This website really has it all! That’s why we’re super excited to have this Holistic Coaching Website Launch. To share links, videos, testimonials, and more with you about Mateja Petje and her healing work! Maybe the best part of all is this website really enabled us to showcase Mateja’s many gifts and talents. If you know someone that would benefit from this information please give them the gift of help and healing. Send your family or friends a link to this website!


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You may be wondering what is Natural Stress Management and Holistic Psychotherapy about? It is about transforming people’s lives as a result of helping them to heal from depression, anxiety, abuse & trauma so they can manage their daily stress with ease & be inspired to thrive and blossom. 


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Holistic Coaching International- Years in making


This website project has been years in the making! We hope you enjoy our website and take the time to navigate around all the content. If you have time for ONLY one thing be sure to read the amazing testimonials about Mateja Petje and how she has been helping clients for over 15 years. You may feel inspired reading how Mateja has been sharing her healing techniques, knowledge and so much more with her clients for years. This is her passion work!



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Holistic Coaching International Website- Bookmark


Just like I said before this website has it all! It’s so jam-packed with helpful resources you just may want to bookmark this site so you can find your way back! If you like be sure to Opt-in and join our Transformational Healing Journey and receive 3 free videos demonstrating top Behavioral & integrative medicine techniques! Perhaps you just fell in love with the Resources page with the huge wealth of great links and books you can access!


Maybe you visited the Testimonials page and you were amazed at what people say about their experience working with Mateja!? However, we definitely understand why you fell in love with our website if you saw Sammy the Stress Buster, our emotional Support Dog! 


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Once again welcome to our wonderful website! This website is a fantastic way to showcase Mateja and her many fabulous healing gifts! Thank you for visiting and taking the time to read about the Holistic Coaching Website Launch.

Holistic Coaching Website- Sammy

We are very excited to introduce to you Sammy the Stress Buster! Sammy is our Emotional Support Dog! He is about three years old right now. Sammy is in training getting ready for his future assignments. Sammy plays a crucial role all things considered his job is to make us smile and laugh! It’s a big job reminding us to be joyful. Maybe one day you’ll meet Sammy the Stress Buster. As a matter of fact, maybe he can help you to be joyful. Perhaps even play a role in your healing process.



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Holistic Resource- Insurance

Holistic Coaching International accepts most Major Insurance Carriers (BCBS, Cigna, Aetna, and out-of-network) Now Mateja Petje offers online and distances therapy either by telephone or video. Can’t come to our office? So put technology to work for you! Learn more about Telemedicine and its benefits.


Go to Holistic Resource- Schedule Session

After you visit and read the “Holistic Coaching Website Launch” Blog if you’re ready for a session with Mateja be sure to visit Holistic Coaching International. Schedule your FREE 15-minute phone consultation today. Not only is this website amazing but maybe far more important is the ability to receive treatment and other services right here. You even have the ability to get help without ever leaving home!


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We invite your feedback on our Holistic Coaching International Website Launch. Please feel free to take time and let us know what you think of our website. Tell us also how we might improve what we do. Thanks again and here’s to great therapy!
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Holistic Coaching Client Testimonial


“After being in traditional therapy and making no progress, I explored the option of holistic therapy with Mateja.  I loved that her approach was focused on me and how to move forward with my anxiety, negative thoughts & relationship perceptions, instead of focusing on the problems and where they stemmed from.  With EFT, affirmations, and tracking my moods, created more self-awareness around my emotions and where they were coming from.  I can happily say that I went from living in a place with high levels of anxiety to virtually none & I am a much happier person all around! She has given me tools that I will continue to utilize for a long time as I continue the healing process.  I can’t say enough amazing things about Mateja!” ~JM, Boca Raton, 11/2016



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The Happiness Program is also known as the Art of Living Part 1 course. It is an introduction to the world of meditation and stress-free living.



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