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Valentine’s Day Mateja Petje

Mateja Petje
February 2, 2019

Valentine’s Day Mateja Petje

Setting healthy boundaries

Love Yourself and Say No

Happy Valentine’s Day!❤LOVE is in the air. Are you fortunate enough to feel it? Unfortunately, many people continue to struggle in their relationships. This can be whether they are intimate, friendships or in simply maintaining a healthy relationship with your family members. For many people this is a very difficult time of year especially during Covid 19.

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Some might also settle for less than they deserve because they are scared to be alone or live a toxic and dysfunctional relationship. Many times staying in a particular comfort zone, even if you suffer, seems easier. So maybe it’s time to learn how to say no and love yourself by first setting healthy boundaries

Honor yourself 1st on Valentine’s Day!

Before I worked on myself (for over 25 years now and the journey continues) I had difficulty saying NO to others because I was afraid that people would not like me anymore. Yes, I was a “people pleaser” until I got seriously ill from trying to keep the peace and please everyone. I worked with therapists and coaches to let go, forgive, and create healthier boundaries with others. Sometimes we need to detach and let go of people who, in spite of our efforts to improve the relationship, continuously do not honor our requests.

You might say it’s “easier said than done” however don’t despair. Follow some of the tips I have included below and start having more peaceful and harmonious relationships with others. Everyday can be your “Valentines Day” Mateja Petje!

Being Assertive vs Being Aggressive

In her book, “Assertiveness for Earth Angels” Doreen Virtue (p. XXV) states “assertiveness means that you’re aware of your feelings and opinions. That you state them to yourself and others in a way that respects other people’s rights. An assertive person is kind, peaceful and gentle yet never apologizes for his or her feelings, because feelings are to be honored and respected.”

Here is a link to Doreeen Virtue’s book on Amazon

“Assertiveness for Earth Angels: How to Be Loving Instead of Too Nice”

Many people confuse being assertive with being aggressive. Aggression is different from occasionally losing your temper. For instance this is where you basically demand the other person to obey your rules. You don’t care about the other people’s needs or feelings.

For example, lets say you are in the habit to saying “YES” to every friend or social obligation. Try prioritizing here and only attend events that make you happy or nurture you. Yes do help your friends in their time of need, however be honest with them. You don’t even need to take time to explain. Just say that you need some time for you. How powerful is that!

Accept yourself

Accept all you are, including your lesser strengths and imperfections. Many of my clients also suffer from being a perfectionist. This often stems from feeling unloved and believing that you need to be perfect to be loved. A daily exercise could be to look in the mirror and say to yourself “I love you. You are special and unique.” It can be challenging in the beginning, however it gets easier. See more on this in Louise Hay’s book “The Power is Within You.” We all have unique gifts and talents and you are no exception!

Here is a link to Louise Hay’s book on Amazon

The Power Is Within You by Louise L. Hay

Daily Self-Care & Nurturing

Do self-care and nurturing activities DAILY. It is very important that you create healthy daily habits. Not everyone wants to meditate, however, if you can even set aside few minutes a day and just breathe or repeat an affirmation, such as “All is Well in My World”. I also love this one from one of my favorite spiritual teachers, Thich Nhat Hanh “Breathing in, calming. Breathing out smiling. Present moment – a wonderful moment.”

In addition to that, take time for regular meals and exercise and movement. Going for a walk around the block will not only help you to stay fit but also helps you to feel more at peace and experience more joy.

Valentine’s Day Mateja Petje- Read “Thriving Life Blog”

I think it would benefit you at this point to also read another blog I wrote. The title is “Mateja Petje Thriving Life”. To make it easier for you to access this Blog I have included a quick link to navigate there.

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Valentine’s Day Mateja Petje

So this year, make a commitment to yourself that you will honor yourself first. Happy Valentines Day 2021 Thank you for reading! Mateja Petje!

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